As promised, I’m back with some comments from last week’s post. It obviously hit a nerve based on the response I got (in a good way!). As I suspected there are a lot of parents and high school seniors feeling a little lost in the process of figuring out what comes next, after graduating. I also had a bunch of kids, guys and girls, comment about the winding paths they’ve taken and how happy they are. I thought it might help to read what they had to say.

In Amanda’s words…I took a year off from school to figure out what I wanted to do and it was the best decision of my life!!! I’m now at community college for 2 years and will be transferring to Columbia or NYU next year! I learned that everyone has a different path and it really doesn’t matter how long it takes you to reach your dream.


Sam…Follow your heart. The world is so grand that everyone should do what they dream to do. Failed my entire first year at college, still have the option to walk in May. Failure doesn't mean anything just keep growing!

Christina…My dream was to go to Ole Miss then I fell in love with West Virginia University, went there for a year and now I’m home at William Paterson. I love being home!


Tara…didn’t have any clue where I wanted to go until literally the week before the deadline (May 1)…I was so stressed because everyone knew what they wanted like months in advance. But it all worked out fine and I found my place in time.

Taylor’s mom spoke of him and of her other son’s experiences which really put everything into perspective….Speaking from personal experience... one child blasted full speed ahead, knew what he wanted, attended his first choice school, graduated with 2 degrees, honors and all kinds of accolades. The other one took the road less traveled. 4 different colleges, time off from school, went to work full time, grew up and matured. Finally figured things out, now graduating with honors and a Bachelor of Fine Arts degree which took years while working full time and going to school full time. Had his first real art gallery showing today and will be heading to graduate school in the fall to pursue a 2 year Masters program in Fine Arts. He’s intent on being a college art professor and sharing his love of art in an academic setting While doing his artwork on the side. Slow and steady wins the race. Everyone Is different. You can advise them and point them in the right direction , but ultimately they have to find their own way in their own time, on their own terms. I’m proud of them both and celebrate their individuality and all of their accomplishments.

Let’s keep this conversation going and leave a comment below. There’s one more part to this which I’ll be posting in another week or two.